Before you get ready for a boring and time-wasting talk, loosen up, because for me, nothing can be more unrealistic than this. Internet has changed everything---the way we live, date, communicate, etc. We are living in a great era, right? Some people say, the way people deal with abundancy is far less elegant than the way to deal with insufficiency. This is especially true in sexual activities. You may ask why, let me tell you the reasons.
Sexual activities are not like tennis. After the failure of my first date, a new and more experienced friend of mine sit down with me and told me that “Listen, you need to think about BBW dating as you play tennis, okay?” Two persons come together, shake hands and start the competition. If you are equally capable of handling a casual relationship, that’s great, but if one part of you is weaker than the other, the inferior part will end up with broken heart or even worse. Regardless the result may be, it is just a game. When it ends, you will both shake hands and walk away. No damage, no violation of rules. When I am getting stronger every time, I witnessed my friend getting hurt, drunk and out of control when compete then stronger competitors.
Hookup will make you cruel. Let me tell you a basic fact. When you are hooking up with a stranger, you are shortening the process of social interaction. More importantly, you are opening yourself to a person you just know and don’t care. You want to achieve it. It takes lots of energy and struggle, because there are many emotional and physical obstacles in the way. These obstacles shouldn’t be related to sexual intimacy. If you keep doing that, your personality will eventually be twisted.
Habitual tinder hookup will degrade sexual activity to a profane level. The way we come to this world is supposed to be something special and honored. If not so, it is supposed to be something we should take seriously, no matter for long time or short. However, the fact is that the possibility of such encounter is enough to make us passionate and turned on. Chemical reaction generated keeps push us to experience it. As time passing by, it becomes norm. People are not going to try hard to get it, because it is so darn easy. Let me ask you how many of you will tramp over hill and dale just to get a date? Maybe you are not even going to go outside of your house, because there are so many other options, like dating and hookup apps. This might tell you something about sexual activities.
In other words, if you find yourself discussing go out and hookup or stay home and play computer games, then you have already engaged in many false sexual activities.